tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415805993894092458.post8913127609077443999..comments2023-12-13T20:44:33.939-05:00Comments on Caroline Grace and God's Grace: "You're not doing enough!"Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16574353892561099631noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415805993894092458.post-10347337911717464832011-11-11T14:22:57.982-05:002011-11-11T14:22:57.982-05:00A friend of mine shared a story of a comment that ...A friend of mine shared a story of a comment that was made following her baby daughter's murder: "She's better off in Heaven. She was too good for this world." <br /><br />My friend was grieving the terrible loss and then felt insulted by this statement by one of her church friends. She went through many of the emotions that you described above. It was startling that someone would say something that callous to a grieving mother at a funeral. I don't know if the woman realized the impact of her words or that they were callous. Perhaps she was simply trying to say something... that she thought would be comforting or helpful.<br /><br />People are typically uncomfortable around those who are grieving or handling a difficult situation. They feel powerless to make you feel better, take away the pain or understand fully how you process emotions. This uncomfortable feeling makes some blurt out advice that they perceive as being helpful.<br /><br />Many times, too, someone in such pain brings deep seated fears and emotions to the surface of the offending party. The offending party reacts with a knee-jerk remark that creates a distraction for both parties. The point of the focus has moved from the uncomfortable source to the reaction created by the remark. <br /><br />No one can fully understand your feelings--not even those in the same situation. Every one of us is different and possess different means or perceptions of our situation. <br /><br />You have your process to deal with your emotions. It does not appear that you've shut down and shut out the world. You are interactive and communicative. You are working through your feelings the best way you can. Stay true to yourself and understand that your pain may trigger pain in others. Don't allow it to add more weight to your shoulders. <br /><br />Peace.kbartonrealtorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16634379909611641711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415805993894092458.post-46051977209616302152011-11-11T14:21:02.936-05:002011-11-11T14:21:02.936-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.kbartonrealtorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16634379909611641711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415805993894092458.post-54641210648050704402011-11-09T23:33:41.598-05:002011-11-09T23:33:41.598-05:00Wendy is right. Did Job just sit by and say nothin...Wendy is right. Did Job just sit by and say nothing about his loses. No. When I was little and sick or hurting, my Dad always said he would take on my pain if he could. Your feelings are very justified and those who know you guys and love you guys would love to be able to take on some of your pain. Tragedy either brings people closer to God or turns them away from God. I've seen both and turning from God creates such havoc. Those of us who read your blog know your relationship with our Father. You are doing all you can do Don't let anyone bring you down. Sending hugs your way for you and Emily.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415805993894092458.post-64290966545620880672011-11-09T16:19:53.759-05:002011-11-09T16:19:53.759-05:00Cam, people can say the dumbest things to people w...Cam, people can say the dumbest things to people who are grieving or hurting. They think they're being helpful, but they just don't have a clue. :P. Clearly, you are dealing with your pain by being open and honest on your blog, and it seems to me it would be VERY normal to feel angry! I would think something was a little "off" if you were not. Don't ever let anyone tell you how to feel. You guys just need people to listen, love, and pray, nothing else.by Wendy Leaumonthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07539898839275673886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2415805993894092458.post-27950296394781263732011-11-09T14:11:38.863-05:002011-11-09T14:11:38.863-05:00Well put, well stated , inspirational to so many. ...Well put, well stated , inspirational to so many. God chooses those He knows that will accept His answers and not those that "think" they already have the answersJoy (M)noreply@blogger.com